What is it you really want? And why you might not know...

Lately, I’ve been wrestling with one big question: How do I define the service we provide in our Burnout Clinic?

Over the past year, with the guidance of brilliant mentors (thank you, Sophia Parra), I’ve learned something essential: if I want the women who need us most to find us, I have to speak in their language—not mine.

And here’s the truth: my ideal client is me.

It’s my best friends.

It’s the women who keep me afloat on the dark days—the ones who remind me to laugh, who let me cry, who get my dark humor and know it’s not offensive, it’s survival. They advocate fiercely for me, but also deliver the hard truths I need to hear. Around them, I don’t feel crazy. I feel seen. Their magic is simply presence.

Our Burnout Program was born out of a desire to serve the “Me’s” of the world.

Because I saw them every day in the clinic.

Women weighed down by loss, fear, exhaustion, confusion, and the slow erosion of hope. I felt their struggle in my skin and in my bones.

That’s why I left primary care. To focus on what truly heals.

Naming What Feels Unnameable

Here’s the rub: many of these women don’t even know what they want. After years in survival mode, over-functioning, and people-pleasing, their sense of self has been buried.

When Leah and I ask them, “What do you want?” the most common response is:

“I don’t even know. I just can’t anymore.  I just don’t want to feel like this.”

But even this feels hard to name.

It’s being lost. Depleted. Barely treading water, with no shore in sight. It’s lonely.

And yet, what I know for sure is this: you are not weak, and you are not broken.

What We Really Offer

Our biggest hope is that women will take that first scary step into the unknown—not alone, but with us. Because I believe with my whole heart: we are never truly lost. The timing is never too late. Healing is not a race.

Sometimes, all you need is someone to sit beside you, to hold on to hope until you can hold it yourself.

A Story That Stays With Me

One of my favorite movie scenes is in What Dreams May Come. Robin Williams’ character tries everything to reach his wife, who has lost hope. Nothing works until he chooses to stay with her in her suffering. Not to fix. Not to coax.  But simply to sit with her in hell, rather than live in heaven alone.

That moment—when she realized she wasn’t alone—ignited hope. And with hope came recognition. Transformation.

That is the heart of our clinic.

We don’t come to “fix” you.

We come to sit with you. To help you find your map again. To remind you that you’re not broken, you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone.

Because when hope returns, change is possible. 

Science-Backed Insight: How Hope Resets the Brain

In burnout, our brain networks get stuck—especially the Default Mode Network (DMN), which maps our sense of self, and the Salience Network (SN), which decides what deserves our attention. When survival mode activates constantly, these networks can lose balance, making it hard to trust yourself or feel drawn toward what you truly want. The Salience Network typically helps us shift between introspection (DMN) and action-oriented thinking (Executive Network), but chronic stress disrupts that fluid transition.  

Hope, on the other hand, is closely tied to the brain’s Behavioral Activation System and dopamine pathways. Setting small goals and visualizing meaningful rewards can strengthen motivation circuits, gently reactivating that capacity to imagine—and move toward—a different, brighter future.  

Tiny Clarity Exercise: “One Wish Check-In”

1. Pause for a moment, breathe gently for a few seconds.

2. Ask yourself: “If I could have just one small feeling or experience today—one that’s meaningful to me—what would it be?” 

3. Notice the first image or word that arises. Write it down, even if it seems vague or fragile.

4. Hold this as your tiny North Star for the day: it might morph, but it anchors you to what matters to you.

Learn More with The Energy Reset

If you’re not already part of our Energy Generator program and would like tools to explore your body’s signals, clarify your desires, and connect with compassionate support, our Energy Reset is the perfect place to start. You’ll receive:

• The Energy Scan Quiz to uncover how burnout shows up for you,

• A personalized Cellular Repair Plan,

• Access to Milestone 1 content in The Energy Generator,

• And entry into our Energy Hub community, where other women stand beside you.

Tap in here when you’re ready to start exploring and healing with our free resource: Energy Reset.

Final Note

At the end of the day, our calling is simple: we are bringers of hope.

And hope is where the healing begins.